The Key Elements of Great Churches

Teaching the Youth to Be Community-Oriented

Parents usually cannot even make their children clean up their rooms, so it’s impossible to encourage teenagers to abandon their computers and work on an “impossible” challenge, right? Probably not. There are methods to influence them to stretch out of their self zones and have greater concern for the people around them.

If you’re a parent, these steps can help you mold your teens into responsible and community-loving adults in the future:

1. Give them autonomy.

How do you think would it feel if someone were to breathe down your neck each and every time you move? That’s exactly how it is for most teenagers. Most adults get quite defensive when this matter is brought up, saying their kids first become responsible before they can be granted autonomy. Truth is, it’s the opposite that is actually true: how can they act more responsibly if they are not given the chance? If anything, psychological research has uncovered that as you trust someone more, he is more likely to act the way you want him to.

2.Show real empathy.

Empathy is beyond being a good listener or putting yourself in the other’s shoes.” It’s actually feeling the emotions of the other. If your kid’s pet dog died, for example, empathizing is not saying, “I know how it feels.” Empathy is grieving together. If your teen is hung up on looking “uncool” when volunteering, don’t dismiss it as “teens being teens.” Empathy requires decisive action, such as taking steps to make volunteering cool.

3. Set a positive example.

Children may have never been great at listening to their parents, they have never failed to copy them. And the reason behind that is largely biological. Ever heard about mirror neurons and their influence on group behavior? Here’s the bottom line: don’t expect your children to do what you yourself couldn’t.

4. Appreciate their efforts.

Feeling like they’re invisible to you is a perfect way to douse their motivation. After all, why contribute you don’t feel like you’ve done a part? This is why it’s critical that you communicate to them that their work is highly valued. And you need to say it to them individually, not as a group.

5. Offer them a meaningful purpose.

Why should these teens do all of these things? Is it to impress their parents? Is it to get a chance to be close to someone they like? To gain some kind of points for their grades? These are all poor motivation. Try explaining to them how the youth’s service can contribute to the overall good of your community, and what the possibilities are if they don’t show up. This is definitely more effective because a purpose in life is one of the most vital factors that promote psychological and also physical health. Proof to that is retiree volunteers being less likely to be depressed and having longer lives than others who prefer to stay home.

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